In every relation round there are some toxic people. Psychologists call them psychic parasites or psychic vampires. This term appear in 1930th from Dion Fortune who described psychic parasitism in relation to vampirism in her book “Psychic Self-Defense“. In 1960th Anton LaVey popularized term “psychic vampire” to describe spiritually or emotionally weak person who drains vital energy from other people, or a paranormal entity within such a person, allowing the psychic draining of energy from other people. Psychic or emotional vampire not always a bad one with red right hand. It can be your best friend Jenny or neighbor pushover mr. Babangida. How to unmask the emotional vampire?
Follow next page to find out types of emotional vampires!
1. Helpless person.
The person who plays the game “Why you not do …?” – “Yes, but …”. What hides between the lines? Helpless person talks about his problem and advisors (donors) are trying hard to solve it. But no matter how many advisers, and no matter how clever and experienced they are – to each proposal helpless person already has an objection. When the circle is closed, and there are no solution variants, starts a new game: “It is awful, isn’t it?” As a result, the problem will never be solved, donors feel a strong emotional and physical exhaustion, and the vampire happy – he got what he want and is going to look for someone else to complain.
This person plays a game of “Gotcha, bastard!“. He contrived some set of rules and with exasperation monitors their implementation. Degrades, scolds, denies some welfare anyone who even slightly violated the rules. But this type of vampire does not impose setted requirements: behaves as he wants, he comes to work when he wants, etc. It is useless to argue with him to prove your innocence, even if he loses, he will withdraw into himself and on will avenge when opportunity arises.
He usually has several donors:
Chaser – usually the wife, with strongly expressed position of the parent (she wants rehabilitate him).
Deliverer – often a doctor who tries to cure him. Usually Chaser bring Alcoholic to deliverer.
Blockhead – a mother who pities Alcoholic, justify him, or “good people” who gratuitously give him money, “understand” and listen the drunken conversations.
Supplier – one who he gives a drink for money or a loan (which he always try to repay).
4. A caring mother
All her interests, her whole life is devoted to children. She starts to educate them in the style of “should” and “can not” from the cradle. Desires, needs, inclinations of the child are not considered. Because of this, child can fall ill. Caring mother brings him to the doctors, seeks for drugs, psychics, etc. But if she will meet someone who can really help her child, she may unconsciously do everything to disrupt the treatment.
Her motto is: “I’ll do anything for your happiness on the condition that you remain unhappy. I will do everything for your recovery, only if you remain sick. ”
5. Businesslike sufferer
Golden man! Hardworking, smart, talented, reliable. Very studious, so even can a little bit high up on the social ladder. But reached height is not essential, since he works not in his talent area. He can not replace the unloved, but reliable work, and develop in interesting area.
With age starts to loose health, and his vampire nature manifests. Realizing that he achieved nothing and he is interesting as a person, his illness forced to stay close together. This is his way of courting his wife. After all, she could not left him when he feels so bad!
6. Eternal Prince
A promising one. A favorite of teachers, dwelling in the search, goes from the circle in a circle and everywhere is good enough. But no one hobby or business does not become a passion of his life. He reaches nothing before 35 and continues to provide hope. Outwardly prosperous, not really satisfied with his situation, so that he could not do more, than to blame family, wife, everyone except himself.
She wins the sympathy of her resignation and humility. Rush to the rescue, even if no one is asking for it. Family – is the center of her universe, she selflessly serve it. And, thus, it gives the right to pull out of psychological forces from close people by talking on the theme “I dedicated your life, do not I?“
8. The Princess and the Pea
She causes a lot of pother around her (or thinks it is). She believes that she must have all, because she simply exists. She does not know the feeling of gratitude, even though the words she may recognize that you have something useful to do for her. Somebody’s services shedownplays, but exaggerates everything she do.
If you know someone who doesn’t interests your business and speak only about himself, manipulates you, after each conversation you feel bad – try to minimize communication with this vampire and do not succumb provocation!
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You already find emotional vampire among your familiars? Write in comments how you find out him!