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The most frequent question parents ask themselves is how to motivate their children to learn and study. For most parents this task is really difficult since not every parent can understand or efficiently communicate with their children. And communication is something that is crushingly important, because if you cannot find those things that would motivate your children it highly possible that they will never have intention to learn as consequence they will not be able to get sufficient education to be self-reliable in life. Learn following advices that will help you to find a way to motivate your children to do well at school.
Keep trustworthy relationships with your child.
It is very important to understand that threatening, preaching, punishing will lead to nowhere because doing this way you won’t inspire your child to learn something new and you just will push him off from education. The best way to encourage your child is to lead him and act with him as one team in resolving any problems or difficulties that may occur.
Remember that your children are not lazy or incapable to learn, they just face some hardships and they seek your involvement to resolve them. You may believe that kindness may soften your child, in contrary, it will make you more influential that is very important in parenting.
Praise is initial thing to motivate your child.
You need to create conditions that would initiate your child to learn. If he or she makes success, don’t forget to reward this little achievement by any thing: kind word, kiss, present. It doesn’t matter in which way you will remark this win, but you are obliged to do so, so that your child could understand that his/her efforts were not empty.
“In 2002, psychologists J. Henderlong, Ph.D. and M. Lepper, Ph.D. analyzed over 30 years of studies on the effects of praise,” says child and family psychotherapist Dr. Fran Walfish, author of The Self-Aware Parent. “They determined that praise can be a powerful motivating force if you follow these guidelines.”
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Be sincere and specific with your praise.
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Praise kids only for traits they have the power to change.
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Use descriptive praise that conveys realistic, attainable standards.
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Be careful about praising kids for achievements that come easily.
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Be careful about praising kids for doing what they already love to do.
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Encourage kids to focus on mastering skills — not on comparing themselves to others.
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Be sensitive to your child’s developmental level.
Develop inside your child strong self-esteem.
This is very crucial thing to evoke the interest towards education. You need to teach your child to believe in himself and his efforts, this way you will upgrade his self-esteem and he will be emotionally more persistent in life. “You’ll see. Everything will work out” – mandatory directive that must be fostered by parents in upbringing of their children.
If a child can’t learn the way we teach, maybe we should teach the way they learn. ~ Ignacio Estrada
Incorporate rule : “All goodies are allowed only after homework is done”.
This is not a simple rule but very important life’s lesson. Like you get paid after you work at your job. This is the same what your child should be committed to. Start saying things: “When your homework is completed, we can discuss watching that movie you wanted to see or video game you wanted to play.” Establish this rule and make your child stick to it. Thus you accustom your child to implement his commitments and develop in him ability to do what his own brain is not yet equipped to do.
If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders. ~ Abigail Van Buren
And to put the correct responsibility on children’s shoulders, shouldn’t parents devote quality time with their kids.?
Time spent with children is actually the biggest investment. As someone has rightly said: “We can Fire a missile across the world with pinpoint accuracy, but we trouble keeping a date with our children to go to the library… And truly they can learn more from what you are than what you teach…”
Presents.
Presents are indeed very powerful stimulus to do good job at school. Therefore if it is affordable, don’t hesitate to make them often. It is not always should be payable stuff . You can always arrange some sort of trip for the whole family to spend all day together.
Competitiveness.
Child’s involvement in education appears when he experiences the competitive spirit. I can do better job the same as my friends, sisters, brothers do. Competitive attitude allows to conquer attention of others classmates that is very enjoyable for any child. Parents must support this mental position in every possible way.
“If you define success by the failure of others you have gained nothing. And if you define your losses by the success of others you will live in eternal misery. The important games to win are the ones in which you advance others along the way” ~ John Lee.
Aspiration to gain long term aims.
For older children, prospects of future profession can motivate them to do everything what is needed to obtain necessary skills and continue their education with relevance to their interest of career growth.
We are living in the era, when you are obliged to learn something all the time so that to become a professional. Lately, it was completely enough to have one diploma, whereas now many people have to reeducate several times in the course of their lives to be competitive. That is way it is essential for child from the erly beginning to accept the following: learning is an interesting and important process and it can be and must be enjoyable.
